9 tips to help you survive your creative despondency

9 tips to help you survive your creative despondency9 tips to help you survive your creative despondencyOne of the downsides of being a creative person is that, periodically, your gas tank runs dry. You expect this to happen during times of high stress, like during a divorce or new job.But it can also happen when everything seems to be going well. In some respects, this is the most frustrating.So what are we to do when the creative muse goes on holiday, leaving us crying behind our easel, writing desk, musical instrument, etc?For starters, dont panic. Youre notlage alone. Creative people run out of gas all the time, but eventually fill up their tanks again. You can too.9 tips to fill up your creative gas tankWhat follows are some suggestions, tips and cartoons to help you through your creative dry spell. Hopefully, theyll get you back on the road to artful bliss.Rituals and habitsI get up early every day. Partly because, where I live, it gets hot in the summer. I have to walk the dog s before things heat up.The other reason I get up early is because I love the quiet and solitude of mornings. I sip my coffee, sit in the backyard, read and write. Sometimes my wife joins me, but we dont talk a lot. We enjoy the serenity.My morning ritual platzdeckchens the stage for my creativity. Fueled with coffee, reading ideas and my notes, Im ready to dive into my work. Whether its painting, cartooning or writing, my morning ritual sets the right tone.The key to forming good habits is to make them part of your rituals. I have a morning ritual, afternoon ritual, and Sunday ritual. Its one way to bundle good habits into regular times that you set aside to prepare yourself for the life you want. Rituals help you form habits. - Lewis HowesPlay hurtIf youre like most creative people, then you know about internal resistance. Its the negative pressure inside us to zu gunsten voncrastinate and resist our creative compulsion.There have been days I set aside to paint landscapes. Paintin g landscapes brings me a lot of pleasure and fulfillment. So, why do I fidget and distract myself instead of diving into my painting? Its my creative resistance.Best selling author Steven Pressfield has written and spoken about how to overcome your internal resistance. He says you need to think of the difference between professionals and amateurs.Professionals show up, do the work, dont complain, and get things done. Amateurs show up late, dont do the work, whine about everything, and fail to produce much. As Pressfield notes, a pro like Kobe Bryant will play through pain, while an amateur will quit.What were talking about here is mental toughness. Creative resistance feels a lot like pain, but you have to play through it. Even on days when I find a million excuses not to paint, I pick up my brushes anyway.Sometimes the muse eludes me, but mora often than not I end up crafting a decent picture. The lesson here is to play hurt. Be a professional.Ask the kidOne of the wonderful things about childhood is our vibrant imaginations. Kids dont get bogged down with details, they just dream big. Remember when you wanted to be an astronaut, movie star, superhero or famous artist? What happened with those dreams?Sure, the dreams change with maturity and reality. But sometimes the dreams die, too. If youre in a creative nose dive, try going back in time. Flip through those childhood photo albums and pictures. Look at your old drawings.Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them. ?Dr. SeussTry to recapture that feeling of endless possibility. Just because youre an adult, doesnt mean you have to stop dreaming big.Baby stepsNobody asks babies to go out and run a marathon. Thats just silly. So why do we bite off mora than we can chew? Why do we weigh ourselves down with unrealistic expectations?Theres nothing wrong with dreaming big and aiming high, but we all know that the devil is in the details. Before we ever run a marathon, we begin with baby steps. One shak y foot in front of another.So it is with your creative despondency. When the artistic well runs dry, dont expect to click your fingers and instantly resuscitate your creativity. Instead, focus on baby steps. Small actions.Like picking up that paint brush and just mixing paint. Or maybe sitting down at the keyboard and playing some scales. Perhaps grabbing a pen and writing down whatever comes into your mind.Great things are done by a series of small things brought together. - Vincent Van GoghWorry less about organized thoughts, structure and rhythm. Just take some baby steps, to get the creative juices going.Set the conditionsOne of my favorite bloggers for success tips on habits and routines is James Clear. He always shares well researched information to help you get more out of life.For example, every time I used to get my teeth cleaned, the hygienist would lecture me about flossing. I hated to floss, and seldom did it.One day, I read a James Clear post about creating super easy, small habits and building them into big habits. James used the example of flossing. Instead of flossing all your teeth, just start with a few in front. Thats it.James used the same example for exercise. Dont think about going for a long run. Just put on your running shoes and maybe step outside for a bit. These super small abroll-container-transport-system are easy wins. And the weird part is that they set the stage for bigger wins.The other advice James shared had to do with environment and visibility. If you want to floss more, leave the floss next to your toothbrush. Where its clearly visible. Want to run more? Leave your running sneakers right by the front door.Things that are out of sight become out of mind.Design your environment to make the reminders of your healthy habits more visible and the reminders of your unhealthy habits less visible. This simple strategy makes change easier and is a quick way to tailor your environment to support your goals. - James ClearFor people in a creative funk, be sure to consider your environment and the visibility of your creative tools. Dont squirrel away your sketch book in a bookcase. Have it readily available.Want to become more creative? Put your camera next to your car keys. Take a photo of something new each time you leave the house. It can be a photo of anything. - James ClearYou get the idea. If you set the right conditions for creativity, it can go a long way in recharging your creative energy.Visit a bookstoreThis tip breaks my heart a little, because there are fewer and fewer bookstores out there. Todays digital economy has upended many bricks and mortar businesses, including bookstores.Never the less, if you can find a local bookstore or library, theyre wonderful places of discovery and inspiration. Strolling each aisle, you never know what youll find around the corner.Some of the inspirational art books in my studio/office.I love visiting bookstores and perusing art books, magazines and related interests o f mine. Not to mention, your local art museum or gallery.Seeking inspiration is a terrific way to lift those artistic doldrums and reinvigorate your creativity. Flipping through your art books and watching instructional videos and online tutorials can also spark some artistic energy.Waste timeAh, childhood. Remember those carefree days when we could kill an entire afternoon exploring in the woods? Or riding our bikes all over the neighborhood.One of the gifts of childhood is the lack of serious responsibility. We could waste time doing whatever we liked. Ironically, it wasnt really wasted time.Downtime allows us to relax and recharge. Its why, in adulthood, we set aside time for vacations. To relax and recharge.I have a hard time doing nothing. But whenever I get off the productivity hamster wheel, I feel like Im catching my breath. Downtime to hang out in the garden with my wife, or take in a movie with my son, recharges me.My dog, Nanuk, is a master in the art of downtime.Sometime s, in order to do our best work, we need to get the heck away from work. At least for a little while. So, dont be afraid to waste a little time here and there. It can actually be time well spent.Do the oppositeIf you do what youve always done, youre likely to get what youve always got Take a close look at what youre doing creatively. The tools you use, influences you have. Then ask yourself, What would happen if I did the opposite?Sometimes our creative despondency is due to a rut. Doing the same thing over and over. One way to break that rut is to do the opposite. For example, if youve always been an abstract painter, why not try a little realism. If the music you do is classical, why not experiment with rap?What would happen if this guy put a little rap into his music?Sometimes, doing the opposite seems crazy, but you just might discover something new, and break out of your creative rutPick up where you are, not where you left offGive yourself a break. Time passes, and skills atro phy. Its easy to give up when we feel like our best days are behind us.Not long ago, I moved from one California to Nevada. Then I helped move my 84 year old mother, too. I spent my entire life living in California, so needless to say, it was a big change.The big move kept me away from my landscape painting for several months. When I finally pulled out my paint box and brushes, I found my painting skills had suffered. It was frustrating.I wondered why I was unable to paint at the level I was painting back in California. But then I realized, my entire life had been upended. So I took a deep breath, and relaxed. After awhile, I loosened up and painted this little study from my imagination.Your creativity never really abandons you. It just takes a vacation now and then. Yes, its frustrating and demoralizing, but its survivable.You cant use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. - Maya AngelouThe nine tips outlined above will help you get back on track. Theyll help you surv ive your creative despondency, so that you can get back to showing the world your amazing, artistic achievementsBefore you goIm John P. Weiss. I draw old school, handcrafted cartoons and write about life. Get on my free email listherefor the latest cartoons and blog posts.Thisarticlefirst appeared on Medium.

Shacking up before marriage could be making you poorer

Shacking up before marriage could be making you poorerShacking up before marriage could be making you poorerCouples often move in together as the step before getting married or an alternative to marriage. Today, two-thirds of unmarried couples choose this option. Some do it to save money, on rent, utilities, and other shared household expenses. However, while living together might save couples money in the short term, it hurts them financially in the long term, according to research from Iowa State and Kansas State universities.The study found that people who cohabited had less wealth in comparison to couples who had never lived together before marriage. This gap in wealth became mora significant for people who had cohabited multiple times.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreWe have to embrace the fact that we are not going back to the days when everyone married at a young age and stayed married, said lead researcher Cassandra Dorius, and assistant professor of human development and family studies at Iowa State University, in a statement. We are in a new world and we need to think about what that means in practical ways.Survey respondents that were currently single, but had previously cohabited were calculated to have lost an average of $39,945 of their net worth. Single people who had cohabited more than once were calculated to have lost $44,219 of their net worth. Meanwhile, people cohabiting for the first time lost $26,927 of their net worth, and people currently cohabiting for the second time lost $33,809.Cohabiting relationships tend to be more short-term and unstable, and you keep starting over every time, said Dorius. That is difficult for wealth generation.The data does not explain why the wealth gap exists, but researchers say the instability of cohabitation and the lack of legal protections contribute. If unmarried, cohabiting couples split up, thei r assets are more likely to get divided up unequally unlike in divorce, which has legal protections. Also, unmarried couples are unlikely to sink their money into more stable financial options like retirement funds or a house, and are more likely to spend their money on things that rapidly depreciate, like furniture or cars.To protect each partys assets should they split up, Dorius recommends a cohabitation agreement, similar to a prenuptial agreement.There is no reason why we shouldnt be forward-thinking, acknowledge how cohabitation is affecting wealth, and start dealing with it, said Dorius.The study was published in the Journal of Financial Planning.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally st rong people

The Growing Pains of Success

The Growing Pains of Success The Growing Pains of Success Symptoms include pain in legs (calves and thigh), typically during evening or nighttime and treatments range from heating pads to mild nonprescription pain medications. Yet, the biggest treatment for growing pains is perseverance. Like the common cold, if children experience growing pains theyll just have to allow nature to run its curse and their bodies to get through it.And whether or notlage you believe such a condition exists in developing adolescents, one thing is certain- life has growing pains. Whether it be with relationships, academically or physically, at some point in time we all experience difficulties as we grow to reach a certain level of maturity in the different areas of ur lives. And our careers are no exception.Everyone has goals and desires to achieve them we all have our own definition of success. And as we work to fulfill this definition it is then that we inevitably experience the many growing pains of success. Below are just five common growing pains people encounter on the road to success and tips on how to handle them once you cross their paths1. DisrespectSigns Symptoms People talking down to you on the job exclusion of your thoughts and ideas due to your age or years of experience (especially if both are low numbers) total disregard for your credentials and/or accomplishments, e.g. questioning the validity of your online degree or training insults to your intelligence, competence and capabilities, especially due to age, sex, disability and/or religionTreatments You must remember that people will only treat you how you allow them to. If you do not demand respect, many people you encounter wont be so willing to offer it. Take pride in who you are, your skills sets and accomplishments on the job. If youre 22 and a recent college grad, do not be intimidated by older workers or those with a longer tenure. Likewise, if youre a woman working on a team full of men, dont be nervous. You have your position for a reason and bring something unique to the table, just like every other employee. Share your ideas, be firm with your demands and address anything you feel discriminates or disrespects you as a worker and individual.2. Solitude Signs Symptoms Friends and coworkers going down a different career path than your own new job in a new city unsupportive friends or colleagues pertaining to your goals decreasing or lack of resourcesTreatments Sometimes our chosen career path becomes lonely, especially if youre hopes and dreams are different from the norm. You may be met with adversity and naysayers telling you Your dreams are too big, It will never happen, and/or You dont have what it takes. This point in your life may feel lonely and isolated as you head in a direction no one else is willing to go, but keep pressing forward. Remember, eagles fly alone.3. RelationshipsSigns Symptoms Difficult to meet people at work unable to relate to coworkers because of age and lifestyle differences non-sociable, feeling awkward, uncomfortable and lonely in new settings moving away from friends/family for work-related opportunitiesTreatments As we grow, people will enter and leave our lives some will stay for the entire course. Creating professional relationships with your coworkers may feel uneasy at first, especially if youre on the shy side, but it is essential to getting over this growing pain. Not only will it make this stage in your life easier to deal with, you may come out with some invaluable connections and new friends.4. AdaptingSigns Symptoms Plan A fails nothing is going according to plan feelings of inadequacy as you question your ability to succeed facing obstacles, setbacks and roadblocksTreatments One thing we all know is that life never goes according to plan. The obstacles you face on the path to success are certainly growing pains, but its how you react to them that is key. Being able to adapt when life throws you a curve ball is dire to your future success. You failed the MCAT and wont be attending medical school this year, now what? Your first attempt at opening a new business didnt work out what will you do now? Try alternative routes, retake exams, apply for that opening again next year Whatever you have to do to keep pursuing your goals, do it even if its not what youd planned.5. TransitionSigns Symptoms Finding your job unfulfilling desire a new position/career development discriminated against in workplace unethical work place draining, stressful, toxic work environmentTreatments Knowing when to leave your job on your path to success can be difficult. Some workers find themselves in very toxic and unhappy working situations, but have not decided to leave due to financial reasons, lack of future employment, or just plain old fear of consequences.Evaluate your current work situation and the pros and cons of leaving and staying. Be honest in your assessment and consider your values. A part of advancement is knowing when to close the door on one experience to open the door for the next.